Yikes. It’s been a doozy of week and we’re only at Wednesday.
I don’t really know what to say. Amanda said it well. So did the entire Tony Awards ceremony. (But seriously, Lin-Manuel Miranda and his prophetic sonnets for President, am I right?)
In times like these, it’s often not the actual tragedy itself that is so saddening and sickening to me – it’s the heartless and cruel responses that people (real human beings!) choose to say and share (mostly through the rather cowardly method of social media). My blessed Facebook news feed has been largely full of responses of love, courage, and kindness, with a few merciless, ignorant, fear-mongering hate messages thrown in for good measure. Currently trying to determine if my Facebook account is worth it for my business purposes (the only reason I still have one, really), or if it’s just time to throw in the towel and rely on other methods of social media advertising/promoting.
I’ve been doing what any well-adjusted adult with ample coping skills would be doing in the days following (yet another gun! related) national tragedy:
- Taking a lot of deep breaths, with the phrase “Lord, have mercy” on every exhale;
- Giving my affectionate, floppy, recovering-from-a-sprained-paw puppy lots of love;
- Getting my hands dirty in the garden, because this is always a place of miracles for me (these green things are GROWING and they were just dry little seeds a few weeks ago!!);
- Stocking up on frozen pizza and Häagen-Daz;
- Reading (and re-reading) this gem of a book, which has a specific prayer for “The Death of Someone Killed in the Neighborhood.” Though Orlando isn’t my physical neighborhood, this still seems to apply;
- Being gentle with myself and those closest to me. Especially those closest to me. Unfortunately, I find that my first response in times like these is to lash out in stress and anger at all the fear and hate, which usually lands on … you guessed it … those closest to me (hello there, dear husband). Fortunately, he too has been exercising gentleness towards me;
- Focusing on the positive, empathetic, light-spreading, life-giving responses that many individuals, organizations, churches, mosques, and companies (including my own) have offered.
And more deep breaths…
Wishing you peace this week.
(Disclaimer: I wasn’t directly affected by the horrible events of Sunday, thankfully, so don’t read this as a plea for sympathy my way – you can offer that to the friends and family of those closest to the tragedy. But, I think we’re all connected – my humanity is bound up with yours. So, I’ll share honestly and humbly, and I hope that you have space to do so as well, because you are a part of this too.)